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Dealing with Passive Aggressive Personalities: What is your Passive Aggressive Holiday Horror Sto...
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A way to respond to passive aggressive behavior at home
SOMETIMES, YOU NEED TO TAKE A POSITION IN YOUR PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE MARRIAGE, RIGHT?
This is certain: so much resistance to sharing the basic tasks of a shared life can be maddening. You tried asking him to do it, (nicely), begging, offered rational trade offs ("if you do X I will do Z for you") and nothing!
Are you still sitting there, waiting for the other side to deliver?
Here we have a simple solution that can change your attitude, going from impotence and frustration to empowerment.
It only needs that you be already aware of what you are dealing with (a PA partner);
- that you have discovered that so many failed projects and misses and things not done were not simple accidents, but purposeful behavior...
- you have stopped offering kind explanations for what was not more than sheer obstination in being a hidden rebel....
- at this point, you even can see his passive aggression coming!
If you are already lucid about the challenge you have in front of you, then do this:
1) You talk about what needs to be done;
2) You then say to your PA husband:
"Either you are doing it or now, but we will know in 24 hours, and after that I will move on!"
If you are ready to stop putting up with his nonsense, then you will have now a Plan B in place, and proceed to take action. Always look at the actions that have a direct impact on you, and cover them first, so you can protect yourself.
More help? There is always Passive Aggressive Husband!
More help? There is always Passive Aggressive Husband!
Monday, July 9, 2012
This is what your passive aggressive spouse does to blindside you!
HAS THE CONVERSATION SHIFTED TO YOUR HUSBAND DOING HEAVY SELF-RECRIMINATIONS? DOES HE SAYS "I SUCK!"
PLEASE, find the rest of the article here:
This is what your passive aggressive spouse does to blindside you!
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Dealing with Passive Aggressive Personalities: Here is a useful video for you!
Dealing with Passive Aggressive Personalities: Here is a useful video for you!: We have uploaded this useful video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yr6RcePirl4&feature=youtu.be Please, leave your comments here, they ...
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How to respond when a passive aggressive husband demeans you in public
Here is an interaction posted in a forum....would you like to see this Q & A?
Q.- Watching him carefully, he displays a lot of the PA behaviors you list in your e-book! Won't remember good things about me, only negative, nothing I do is good enough, unrealistic expectations, black and white thinking, couldn't express his own anger as a child, forgets promises, makes financial decisions - EVERYTHING on his own - not just financial, no accountability, blames me for everything, etc.
And you know what the worst is? He calls me names in front of people who love me! Just yesterday he came to my office, and said to my boss: “How is my little slut doing here? Better than at home?” I wanted to die then and there!!!
I truly believe I am only around for him as a scapegoat for him to vent at. He does not do this with ANYONE ELSE! A long time ago he even once told me that he felt he could get angry with me because I let him have his feelings! Please give me insight on how he twisted things to me attacking him and if I should even try w/ this person, or if I have mishandled things somehow. Also, if there is something I need to do to save this relationship. By the way, I am a "rescuer." Another problem I have is that I am a Catholic and cannot marry another person.
Dear,
A.- I need you to call him today to let him know that although you love him
and value your relationship, you would not tolerate the way he treated you last
night.
(This
needs to be done a calm voice and tone. It will be better to be really understood
that you keep your voice neutral and matter of fact)
He
can feign forgetfulness: “what are you talking about?” or demean the episode:
“I was only making a joke, can’t you take a joke”? Be prepared with the
responses: I know that you remember; I don’t appreciate jokes that include an
insult…..all in the same tone of voice.
PLEASE: Don’t let him enrage you, keep the
voice neutral and flat. And repeat your phrase at least three times...Why three? Because he needs three times the message delivered, so as not to deny it!
You have to consider that you will need several episodes of this caliber to really break
through to him the message: “I want to be respected by you.”
Also,
you will not hear from him frequently about any decision of his to improve; he will
not say a word, so you need to watch his behavior. If you catch him praising
you, tell him thanks.
This
is a long process of change. It depends how much energy and hope you have in
this relationship….perhaps you feel that it is worth the try. Then, when you
see changes in one area, you can move to the next one, spelling for him what is
unacceptable behavior and what is the “good behavior” you need.
This looks like a lot of work?
Yes, indeed! but there is no other way if you want to:
a) recover your self-respect;
b) keep your sane brain functioning, not "fogged" by him;
c) see clearly who is doing what in this marriage.
Good luck!
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
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