A way to respond to passive aggressive behavior at home

SOMETIMES, YOU NEED TO TAKE A POSITION IN YOUR PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE MARRIAGE, RIGHT?

This is certain: so much resistance to sharing the basic tasks of a shared life can be maddening. You tried asking him to do it, (nicely), begging, offered rational trade offs ("if you do X I will do Z for you") and nothing! 

Are you still sitting there, waiting for the other side to deliver?

Here we have a simple solution that can change your attitude, going from impotence and frustration to empowerment. 

It only needs that you be already aware of what you are dealing with (a PA partner);

• that you have discovered that so many failed projects and misses and things not done were not simple accidents, but purposeful behavior...
• you have stopped offering kind explanations for what was not more than sheer obstination in being a hidden rebel....
• at this point, you even can see his passive aggression coming!

If you are already lucid about the challenge you have in front of you, then do this:

1) You talk about what needs to be done;

2) You then say to your PA husband: 

"Either you are doing it or now, but we will know in 24 hours, and after that I will move on!"

If you are ready to stop putting up with his nonsense, then you will have now a Plan B in place, and proceed to take action. Always look at the actions that have a direct impact on you, and cover them first, so you can protect yourself. 


More help? There is always Passive Aggressive Husband!